Failures are going to happen. This is a life-reality “no brainer”! Still, we struggle mightily whenever we say or do the wrong thing, make the wrong choice, or pursue the wrong path. One of the most difficult consequences of our failures is how it affects other people. None of us starts off in ministry wanting to hurt people. Yet, inevitably, you can count on the fact that you will experience failure and people will be affected.
But, we take heart! The Scripture has so much to say about failure. The psalmist puts it this way, “My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever” (Ps. 73:26). I am especially encouraged by Prov. 24:16: “For the righteous falls seven times and rises again, but the wicked stumble in times of calamity.” One of the discernible signs of the righteous is their resiliency in failure. If only we could remember that our strengths often play rival to Jesus’ agenda while it is our weaknesses which are his allies. The apostle Paul learned this: “But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.”
In the last post, we looked at three lesson we can learn from failure in ministry. So what other lessons can we learn from our failures?
We tend to forget that for our spouses and our children, faith and trust in God is “caught” more than “taught.” It’s what they see in us when things are hard that will shape their minds and hearts to far greater degree than what our words alone can do. This is the power of what Moses recorded as our “by the way” teaching that happens in the learning community of our family. Your spouse is watching and learning from you—even on your darkest day. Your children’s view of God and of the Christian faith are being shaped in the midst of the stress and turmoil. Don’t forget your responsibility to point them to God and to submit to him even in the heartbreak.
This doesn’t mean trying to hide things from them, especially from your wife. rather, you can bring your cries of anguish to the One who cares for you and for them. I know this is one of the reasons why so many raw emotions and words from the lips of the saints have been inscripturated for us, cries like “How long, oh Lord!” Remember that you teach your family the true nature of faith when you are in pain as much, if not more than, when you are blissfully happy. Show them what faith in 1 Pet. 5:6–7 looks like by obediently humbling yourself “under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you, casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.”
Jesus knows our hearts so well. He correctly identifies the source of sin in Mark 7:21–22: “For from within, out of the heart of man, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, coveting, wickedness, deceit, sensuality, envy, slander, pride, foolishness.” Here are all the ways in which we fail to honor the image of God as it exists in us and our neighbor. Much on this dark list comes from the sinful responses we have toward others for whom we have developed negative feelings for one reason or another.
I confess that I as I review this list I can identify sins that took hold of my heart and life because of the bitterness I had from those who, in the course of ministry, kicked me while I was down. In response, in my heart, I returned them the favor, something that Jesus directly addressed (see Matt. 5:21–22). It reminds me of something one of my first mentors in ministry said. “As you grow older in ministry, one of two things will happen,” he said. “You will either sweeten, or you will sour.” It is so true. The gospel provides the remedy to our deepest level of brokenness. In receiving new life and being united to Christ, we have new abilities and desires. Paul instructs us, therefore, to put away the evil practices of the “old self”: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and obscene talk (Col. 3:8). Consider how liable we are to committing these particular sins when we’ve been hurt by others! Then consider what we are called to “put on” by grace: “compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony” (Col. 3:12–14).
So, beware the “root of bitterness” (Heb. 12:15). Wash your wounds with the Word and seek forgiveness and healing. Bitterness that festers in the wounds of the heart will lead to poor decisions and reactions, which only spreads more hurt and pain.
This lesson goes hand-in-hand with the previous one. But the issue here centers on the spiritual reality of which Eph. 6:12 reminds us. Our primary foe is not the flesh-and-blood type, but the invisible-and-evil type. In Jesus’ greatest moment of human weakness, his temptations in the desert, Satan drew near to him. He attacked him at a point of vulnerability. You can be sure that our Adversary and his minions will be watching and waiting for just such an opportune time in your life. The admonitions of Eph. 6 are useful especially in such times. Jesus shows us the way to handle these attacks. He fends off the Enemy by clinging to the Word!
Your spiritual integrity will be tested by failure. You will be laid open to Satan’s attack. These are the times when we must run to the Word and desperately cling to every truth, every promise, and every command. The Word is a refuge for us. We must not forget this. David proclaimed about God that “his way is perfect” and that “the word of the LORD proves true; he is a shield for all those who take refuge in him” (Ps. 18:30; compare 2 Sam. 22). Let this be our anthem in failure!
Of all the lessons I have learned in ministry, this lesson is the most repeated. God is sovereign. “The counsel of the LORD stands forever, the plans of his heart to all generations” (Ps. 33:10). No matter what occurs, regardless of the choices made, we can rest assured that God’s plan is going according to plan. We must remember this when we fail. “Many are the plans in the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the LORD that will stand” (Prov. 19:21). Yes, we struggle to reconcile our ability to choose and bear responsibility for those choices with his sovereign and single plan for time and eternity. Yet, the Scripture acknowledges repeatedly (because we forget) that, at the end of the day, his will is done (see Isa. 46:8–10). And this should be a great comfort to us. We are to take refuge in the incomprehensible mystery of the sovereignty of God, especially when things are at their worst in our lives. What greater testament is there to this than Paul’s words in Rom. 8:28? “And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.”
In the midst of failures, it’s the words “all things” here that comfort me most. “All things” means all things! This includes all my failings and shortcomings. My successes too are part of the “all things.” God is on the throne. We need not fear failures because they are no surprise to our glorious King and Ruler. Knowing this doesn’t mean that we simply shrug off our failures or think that they don’t matter. They do. And that’s the point. Your failures do matter in the same way everything matters. God is in control of every detail, every event, every circumstance, every moment.
As his children by grace, we have been made aware of this by God himself. Why? So that we can trust him more. Trust him! Trust him with your failures. Trust him with your heart. Trust him with the outcome. Trust him with the hurt no one sees. Trust him with the unknown. He is worthy of your trust. Even in your failures, don’t fail to trust him.
Josh Matteson is married to Tracey and they have three sons. They live in Phoenix where Josh pastors GraceLife Church. He is a graduate of Phoenix Seminary and has pastored in the valley for over 15 years. You can read his blog or follow him on Twitter.
We are not as eager to learn from our failures as from our successes. In fact, I would argue that success often (not always!) keeps us from learning anything. But failures have the unique ability to drive us to humility. And this is a very good experience from which those of us who serve in ministry capacities can learn.
My first taste of real failure in ministry came when I was a youth pastor. I had a student in my group that was a leader and an influencer—just not a positive one. My concern was that his parents seemed unaware of their son’s spiritual condition. So, I took it upon myself to help them see it. I met with them and told them of my concern for the state of his heart. I told them that I thought this student’s problem was a “heart issue.” This deeply troubled them, but not in the way I had hoped. Their grief was only that I would think so lowly of their son! And they did not hesitate to air their grievances with the senior pastor.
The failure here was not that I was wrong, and they were right, or vice-versa. The failure I experienced was that I sought them out rather than the student. The only outcome of this approach was a very convenient reason for them to exit our ministry.
I beat myself up for failing. I had thought that perhaps this would have all played out differently if only I had used different words. Maybe I should have approached the student before the parents. Or, better yet, I should have just kept my mouth shut. My heart was in the right place, but I handled the situation all wrong.
Now, as those of us in ministry can testify, we will have a longer list of failures on our resume than successes! But the Gospel calls us to look at our failures in a different light than we would otherwise. Our failures are opportunities to learn, to grow, to reevaluate, to confess, and to share. Consider this: the Bible contains many accounts of failures in the lives of God’s people.
In that spirit, let me humbly suggest the following lessons which my own failures in ministry have taught me. These are the first three of seven that I will share:
We are a success-driven culture. We often assign greater meaning and significance to our victories than our losses. We have names such as “winner” and “loser” for a reason! But in moments of failure, we must fight our tendency to think of ourselves as either a failure or success. When we do that, we end up making success an idol. And this idol is a cruel taskmaster. It will eventually crush me because I will not be able to avoid failure.
Now this is somewhat like the first lesson above. But, the emphasis here is on the opportunity which failures afford me to gauge my own grip on the Gospel truths. These are truths which ought to shape my life, my worldview, indeed everything I do. When I fail, I have an opportunity to see how I process the failure through the grid of the Gospel. How am I processing failure? Am I recognizing that God is still sovereign? That I am finite, fallen, and prone to failure? That He redeems me from even my own catastrophes?
God often is saying something to me that is different than what my critics are telling me. This is not to say that we cannot learn from our critics. We certainly can and we should. But I have found in myself a tendency to listen to the voices of my critics rather than the voice of God. The truth is that that my critics are not above missing the mark that God happens to be targeting. So, I have learned that I will not allow a critic’s voice to drown out the still small voice of the Lord in my failures. We should hear our critics out. But then we should seek time with God and ask the Spirit to speak. We may not like what we hear! In fact, God’s critique will often cut deeper than anything our critics can produce. But we are people of the Word. Thus, we affirm that there are no such things as insignificant moments in our lives. Every moment matters. And every event in our life—even failures—are redemptive moments.
Josh Matteson is married to Tracey and they have three sons. They live in Phoenix where Josh pastors GraceLife Church. He is a graduate of Phoenix Seminary and has pastored in the valley for over 15 years. You can read his blog or follow him on Twitter.
Dr. Bryan Fergus graduated in 2018 with the Doctorate of Ministry degree from Phoenix Seminary. In this post, he summarizes his DMin thesis and how he settled on his topic.
Most doctoral graduates likely share the common experience of being asked about their dissertation topics. When asked, most of us know that we have about sixty seconds to explain a year’s worth of research before the person asking glazes over and loses consciousness. You should see the blank stares that come from people who instantly regret asking a doctoral student about a dissertation topic. They are priceless. With that said, I’ve been asked to write a brief blog post about my recently defended dissertation. Since I have seen the blank stares of instant regret, I promise I will do my best to keep you from losing consciousness.
Let me begin by saying that I genuinely appreciate philosophical approaches to theology. I was raised on and trained in good solid systematic theology. I appreciate and rely on that training every time I serve Jesus as a pastor or professor. But since I have a faith that seeks understanding, sometimes the big questions lead me to a more philosophical approach that seeks to make sense of what the Scriptures tell us. For example, we know there is a place called Hell. Scripture and systematic approaches to theology tell us so, and we should trust them. But why would our good God create such a place or allow it to exist? Philosophical approaches to theology plumb the depths of such mysteries in an attempt to understand these issues and provide answers for the confused.
Several years ago I was exposed to philosophical theology in the analytic tradition, commonly called analytic theology. I noticed that analytic theologians use certain best practices in order to explore some of the more complex Christian doctrines. They are clear about their assumptions and rational moves when presenting their doctrinal positions. They strictly adhere to the formal rules of logic when making their theological arguments. They strive for simplicity or parsimony of expression when stating a case. They pursue precision in their choice of words, and genuinely consider potential objections to their ideas. They divide complex theological problems into manageable units, and submit their theological models to the revelation of Scripture.
When it came time to land on a dissertation topic, I chose to explore how the best practices of analytic theologians could potentially empower people with teaching ministries in the church to navigate the increasingly skeptical and hostile religious landscape of American culture. My research focused on identifying the best practices of analytic theology and locating examples of each of them in the writings of prominent analytic theologians. After this, I got busy offering potential examples of how these best practices could shape the way pastors and Christian leaders teach the complex doctrines of our faith to a skeptical culture.
Why go to all of this trouble? Because I want to help ministry practitioners reach skeptical hearers with the truth of the Gospel of Jesus. As a pastor with twenty-nine years of vocational ministry experience, I have noticed that people who attend church as well as people who don’t are less inclined to simply accept biblical doctrines at face value. Many people need these doctrines to make rational sense before they can fully embrace them. To be sure, there is plenty of mystery at work in some of the more complex doctrines of our faith, like the doctrine of the Trinity or the incarnation of Jesus. Still, if effort is made to demonstrate that these doctrines really do make sense, perhaps skeptics will give our faith a genuine hearing.
I’m not the first to think that an analytic approach to theology using both revelation and sanctified reason could help listeners connect the dots in their heads. Jonathan Edwards also thought so. Many analytic theologians think of the great Puritan preacher who was instrumental in facilitating the Great Awakening as a proto analytic theologian. His theological treatises marry revelation with reason in order to unpack Christian doctrines. Many don’t realize that Edwards’s theological treatises began as sermons. Since that is the case, I worked through some of Edwards’s sermons to determine if he used the best practices employed by contemporary analytic theologians in his preaching. I discovered that he indeed did.
This discovery showed me that the best practices of analytic theologians could be useful in catechetical or teaching ministries in the Church. It’s my hope that as the discipline of analytic theology grows in popularity, more ministry practitioners will consider using its best practices to inform the way they teach God’s Word. There are plenty of skeptics out there who need to see how our faith really does make sense. These best practices could prove to be useful tools to achieve that end. Still conscious?
Dr. Bryan Fergus is a two-time graduate of Phoenix Seminary. He received his MDiv in 2001 and his DMin in 2018. Bryan serves as an Executive Pastor at CalvaryPHX in Phoenix, Arizona. He has been a pastor for 29 years, and has taught in Christian universities and seminaries for 17 years. He is currently an Adjunct Professor of Biblical Literature and Pastoral Theology at Phoenix Seminary. Bryan and his wife, Stacy, live in Phoenix with their five amazing kids.
Phoenix Seminary graduate Al Fadi was born a proud son of Saudia Arabia. He felt privileged to be raised in the center of Islam. By the age of fifteen, he set out to train for jihad with the goal of joining Osama bin Laden’s ‘fighters for god’ and ultimately giving his life to promote Islam, so that he could assure his entrance into heaven.
God had a different plan for Al Fadi – one that brought him to the United States and an encounter with Jesus Christ.
“I looked at the Quran, compared it to the Bible. I looked at the person of Christ, and after six months I fell in love with this Jesus. I could not resist the compelling evidence…The God of the Bible loved me and sent His Son to die for me. The god of the Quran never did that for me. The Holy Spirit just gave me the courage to get down on my knees and pray, and ask Him to become my Lord and Savior.”
Now, Al Fadi is on a new mission. Equipped with a Master’s of Divinity in Biblical Communication, he is seeking to reach the Muslim world for Christ. Today, he serves as the Director of the Center for Islamic Research and Awareness. He is a recognized expert on the teaching and challenges of Islam, as well as a regular guest on numerous English and Arabic television and radio shows. Check out his latest interview on the FOX News Channel.
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